#1 LUST OF THE FLESH (1 Jh 2:16 Amplified)
Use courtship to build and nurture friendship, communication and enduring qualities like godly character, virtue, integrity and compatibility. Do not indulge in premarital sex and sexual pleasure, forgetting that casual sex will result in a casual relationship.
#2 LUST OF THE EYES (Mathew 5:29)
The Amplified Bible describes this as “greedy longings of the mind” when a young man marries a lady, without really caring for her just because she is from a rich background or vice versa. All THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD It is important to make the right God – given decisions.
#3 THE PRIDE OF LIFE
The Amplified Bible describes this as “assurance in one’s own resources or in the stability of earthly things”. They have a false and inflated idea of their own importance. They want someone who has attributes that will enhance what they have. They are not interested in giving or contributing to another person’s life.
MEN DO NOT MARRY BECAUSE YOU WANT A WIFE THAT WILL ;
– Satisfy your sexual desires legally
– cook your food
– take care of his parents
– take care of his siblings
– take care of his children
– help him get the business connections he needs, and
– be a beauty queen he can parade among his friends.
WOMEN DON’T MARRY BECAUSE YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL;
– Satisfy her sexual desires legally.
– have financial security
-Provide for her parents financially
– provide for her siblings
– improve herself educationally
– provide material needs such as clothes, jewelry and cars
– go on vacations to foreign countries.
This reflects selfish motives and desires, not love. You are interested in making yourself happy, not thinking about being a blessing to someone else.
Don’t be pressurized. Your time will come too and it will be glorious, with no regrets.
Time reveals true motives.
It is sad and very serious. Don’t be disobedient to God’s word in choosing a spouse, you cannot blame God for the consequences that your choice brings. You have to bear the responsibility for your own disobedience.
#7 LOW SELF ESTEEM
What do you think of yourself? How would you describe yourself to someone if you were being objective? The picture you have of yourself is crucial to your choice of a partner, because we attract people who feed off what we think of ourselves. When you think you are a failure, you will attract people who will reinforce that idea in your mind.
Who you are with, determines who you are. Who you are determines who you will be with, and how you are treated. See yourself as God sees you. You are a pearl of great price(Mal 3:17).