“Happiness is Synthetic- you either create it, or you don’t. The Happiness that lasts is earned through your habits.”
Instead of looking outwards for happiness why not look within and notice all the ways you are preventing yourself from being happy in this very moment. You don’t sort ways to be happy. The bitter truth is that it is always almost impossible to be happy with new habits without breaking the old habits.
To get you started, here are ways you prevent yourself from being happy.
#1 You expect too much. It is naturally okay for human to expect things but when you expect too much especially beyound your reach, it hurts deeply, break hearts and disappoints if it didn’t work out well. Especially if its from those we love and care about.
As Calvin and Hobbes put it “I find my life is a lot easier, the lower I keep my expectations.”
Learn to fix average expectation.
#2 You are ungrateful. You always focus on what others have that you do not have. Be grateful to the things you have instead of focusing on what others have. Stop wanting or comparing what others have. What you see on social media should stop tripping you. Whatever you see is what they want you to see, it might not be a fact.
#3 You hang around with negative people. The mood of the people around you affects how you feel, if you stay with the negative minds they affects you negatively. JOEL OSTEEM says “You cannot expect to live a positive life when you are hanging out with negative people”. They will compel their negative feelings to you that you will lack your happiness and confidence.
#4 You are a pleaser. As long as you always feel to be loved and liked as a good person, you might miss it completely. Finding people that will like and love you for who you are is a multi feeling. Do not forget that standing up to please everyone or to make them to love and like you, gives them chance to manipulate you. Such acts will deprive you from being happy. The more you hustle for approval the less other people feel at ease with you. A psycho therapist once said that once such group of people feel at ease with you, they will always cause you to be sad.
#5 You are broke. Yes money cannot buy happiness but it can help you to get happiness. Like the popular saying, it is better to cry in Lamborghini than on a bicycle. Although happiness is a state of mind but cash has a capacity to boost your state of mind. Money can enhance happiness. Get up today and work because lack of money can keep you unhappy.
#6 You don’t have goals. Goals give a centre purpose and directions. A Scientist once said that working into a meaningful life is being able to achieve goals. It makes you happy. Set goals for yourself, no matter how little, let it be an attainable and time based goals. When you achieve it, you will feel accomplished and not empty.
#7 You are stuck in your comfort zone. Your comfort zone can be comforting but it might not give you the fulfillment you deserve in achieving your dreams. Step out of your comfort zone(it gives life of regrets) , move out of your comfort zone and pursue your dreams. You can feel happy in your comfort zone but you will not feel fulfilled deep down, this can lead to regrets.
#8 You are always alone. Mother Theresa states that “the most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feelings of being unloved”. Although being alone doesn’t make you lonely but can make you unhappy. Even if you don’t have the sanguine personality learn to share few moments with people. Socialising is very good for yourself.
#9 You are scared of the future. Thinking about the future is normal but how you feel about it matters a lot. It might make you to start doubting yourself because the future is filled up with uncertainties (anxious and sad). Learn to be positive.
#10 You dwell in the past. Why do you still think about your betrayals, past wishes , mistakes? Hope you are aware that you can’t undo those actions you keep thinking about because it is now in the past. Such memories causes you to be unhappy, why are you worrying over things you can’t change . As TD JAKES states “The past is in the past, let it go”.
Get up today and look for that thing that made you sad and defeat it. Life is good and you can’t help but smile and be happy.