Teen age is a time of uncertainty. It is a rapid physical development and deep emotional changes. Most times the teenager gets confuse, left in a state of dilemma and don’t really know what to do .
Here are few advices that can guide you at this age.
DON’T TRY TO PLAN YOUR ENTIRE LIFE OUT
Take it one step by step at a time,you don’t need to rush things. Do not put a specific time frame on the major events in your life – I will buy my first car at this age ,build my mansion before I got to this age, marry at this age. Most times it does not just work like this. You must be very much aware of unpredictability of life. It may not happen the way you planned or predicted. Have it in mind, so you dont get depressed.
RESPECT AND OBEY YOUR PARENTS,TEACHERS AND ELDERS
They may not say what you want to hear or give you what you want to have or even allow you do what you want to do but they can give you all you need to have inorder to get whatever you want in life,if only you will be obedient and respectful especially to the GOOD ones around you. Stay open minded to their views and opinions.
DO NOT BE IN A HASTE TO GROW UP
Try to embrace your childhood or teen age for as long as you can because this is the only time you can live the most carefree time of your days on earth. Adulthood and their thing will come pretty soon .
FRIENDS WILL COME AND GO
Have this at the back of your mind that very few friends of yours today will still remain your friends when you become an adult. Maintain the friendship you truly treasure now but you must not throw away your morals or happiness because you want to keep one.
SAYING “NO” IS VERY OKAY
You have to know how to say NO and maintain your NO. You must not put yourself in danger or allow peer pressure to decide for you, go for the positive vibes…saying NO is very okay.
SEEK HELP WHEN THINGS GET TOO MUCH
You dont even need to wait until it gets too much. Once you encounter any issue that gives you concern or you are confused on how to handle it . Seek for help ASAP. It is a very good idea to seek for help, it doesn’t really mean you are weak but of strength. It is when you have strength that you can pick up the courage to speak out. You can seek help in two ways …internal and external support which is family, friends and professional support.
YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO IS ANXIOUS
You may think you are the only one in this ,but pretty much every other person feel this way especially the teens. Always remind yourself that your friends and peers go through this. Just learn how to reduce the intensity of these emotions.
YOUR VIEWS WILL CHANGE OVER TIME
What seems very cool in your eyes now can change as you progress through your teen age, let alone when you become an adult. So dont hurt yourself or die having it now because there are so many beautiful things to choose from in future.